Have you ever met someone amazing that you’d love to date, but then thought, “Actually, I think I had better hold off until __________”. I’ve done it several times. I’ve put off many loves in embryo, thinking that I just need to _______ or _______ or _______ before I really experience that big, awesome romance. If you’ve ever procrastinated like this, read on:
I have recently discovered the many splendored jewel that is Californication. For those that don’t know, it’s the story of a struggling author who loves women to a fault, including, and perhaps foremost, the mother of his daughter. It’s a tale of his philandering, drinking, and occasionally artistic ways. This main character, Hank Moody, is patterned after the life of Charles Bukowski. The closing scene of Season 2 Episode 10 contains one of the most romantic sentiments I’ve ever heard:
If you’re reading this, it means I actually worked up the courage to mail it so good for me. You don’t know me very well, but if you get me started I tend to go on and on about how hard the writing is for me. This is the hardest thing I ever had to write. There no easy way to say this so I’ll just say it, I met someone. It was an accident, I wasn’t looking for it, I wasn’t one the make it was a perfect storm. She said one thing and I said another and the next thing I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life in the middle of that conversation. Now there this feeling in my gut that she might be the one. She completely nuts in a way that makes me smile. Highly neurotic. A great deal of maintenance required. She is you Karen, that’s the good news. The bad news is that I don’t know how to be with you right now, and that scares the shit out of me. Because if I am not with you right now I have this feeling we will get lost out there. It’s a big bad world full of twist and turns and people have a way of blinking and missing the moment. The moment that could of changed everything. I don’t know what’s going on with us and I can’t tell you why you should waste a leap of faith on the likes of me. But damn you smell good, like home and you make excellent coffee that has to count for something, right? Call me.
There’s something to be said for loving the one that is in front of you, right now. It’s tempting to “wait for the perfect time”, but “the perfect time” never really comes. And like Hank said, ” We will get lost out there… people have a way of blinking and missing the moment”.
Don’t get lost.