How much honesty is too much honesty?


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How much honesty is too much honesty?

Jessica Wise

founder – The Litas

Devin Townsend

recording artist

Pat Bagley

Pulitzer finalist political cartoonist

Sean Whalen

men’s coach

Robert Clark

National Geographic photographer

Kurt Bestor

Composer, pianist, trumpet player Kurt Bestor


Richard Dutcher

black and white portrait of filmmaker Richard Dutcher


Marianne Willamson

author & spiritual teacher

Steven Wilson

Grammy nominated musician & producer

Peter Breinholt

Singer / songwriter Peter Breinholt photographed by Paul Duane

singer / songwriter

Genpo Roshi

black and white portrait of Zen Master Genpo Roshi

Zen Master Genpo Roshi

What is the difference between a white like and a damn lie? We explore the topic on today’s mini episode.

Listener Q&A:

Stephen from Austin writes,

“I really admire how open you are with your fashion sense and you seem to have a lot of success with the ladies. I just started dating a girl that I really like. Just like you, I’ve got a closet full of high heels. When do I tell her? I don’t want to ruin a good thing.”

Joseph from Salt Lake City asks,

“Women SAY that they want you to be honest all of the time and tell them everything, but it seems like as soon as you let your guard down and actually do it, they lose respect for you. What do you do?”

On today’s episode, I answer these questions and explore the question – just how honest do we want our political leaders to be, anyway?

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The Tao of the Asshole

“Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.”

– Gore Vidal

I never knew how hard it can be to have “style”.  There are moments when I sit down to write,  I realize that there is some deeper truth turning my gears that day, but for some reason I’ve restricted my own access to it. I have a hard time being truly honest with myself, and therefore, everything that I say here is just banal bullshit.

I try not to write when that happens.

I’m having one of those  moments right now though. I have a lot on my mind, to be sure, but I’m really having a hard time getting real with you right now.  I’m pretty sure that’s the only thing you come here for. Angry rants painted in broad strokes about religion, relationships, the government, etc, are a $0.10 / dozen.

I’m reading a book right now called “Hilarity Ensues” by Tucker Max.  In his own words:

“My name is Tucker Max, and I am an asshole. I get excessively drunk at inappropriate times, disregard social norms, indulge every whim, ignore the consequences of my actions, mock idiots and posers, sleep with more women than is safe or reasonable, and just generally act like a raging dickhead. But, I do contribute to humanity in one very important way. I share my adventures with the world. They are known as…The Tucker Max Stories”

Tucker Max author of "I hope they serve beer in hell"

Tucker Max, author of "I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell" and "Assholes Finish First"

In “Hilarity Ensues”, Tucker talks about the greatest lesson he learned about women during a summer in Cancun.

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