What does it mean to be sensual? Is sensuality the same as sexuality? What is the real cost of not having sensuality in my life? What can I do to be come more sensual? Sensuality expert and author of the book “The Stopover”, Emanuela Fernandes, shares some perspectives on the importance of being a sensual human. Memorable moments from the episode:
“Sensual identity in this day and age is something you have to get comfortable with. There are always going to be people who are going to criticize you for being over the top or overly sensual, overly sexual, overly fearless, or overly out there. People are going to label you as weird, or “out there”, or gay, or queer, or a lesbian. People perceive sensuality differently.” “There are other sensual pleasures like travel, and food, and sex, and connecting with another human being on a very deep almost celestial level that not all of us are blessed to have.” “For too many years I lived thinking about pleasing people. I deprived myself from indulging in sensual pleasures.” “We all think we know what we want in life, but the truth is, most of us do not. Most of us have no idea what we want from our lives. We don’t know if we want love, if we want to achieve different things in our lives, because we don’t have time to pause. Being engaged with all of our senses, being able to tune into our senses, to understand… “ “You’re still not going to please everyone. It’s about doing what makes you happy. It’s about connecting and figuring out what truly matters to you, and tuning out the voices from the outside. You are going to attract the people who are truly like minded. The people who are going to support you and love you.” “There’s always going to be that judgement. So for a while, I thought, ‘I do need to tone this down.’ You don’t really have to. If this is really essential, if this is really something that gives you pleasure – wearing that perfume gives you that pleasure… If putting on your nylons gives you pleasure; Regardless of who you are – a man, or a woman…We are so stuck on gender specific. Who said that nylon has to be gender specific? Who says that I can’t wear bad ass leather pants? This is my pleasure. This is what makes me happy. This is what tantalizes my senses. When I stopped caring so much about what people thought, I can’t tell you how many incredible men and women I’ve met.” “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson Check out my interview with Marianne here.
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